Newborn Care Specialist & Night Nanny
- Breastfeeding Support
- Gentle Sleep Coaching
- Colic & Reflux
- Bottle Feeding Support
- Paediatric First Aid & Enhanced DBS Check
Providing Gentle Care For Your Baby While You Sleep
Getting Back To Nurture
Congratulations! You have entered the world of parenthood. Whether you're expecting your first baby or bringing home your second set of triplets, one thing will have already become obvious to you: everyone and their grandmother has an opinion on how you should be raising your baby/babies.
Advice is great, right? It's given with the best intentions, and some of it is really quite useful! That is unless it just doesn't sit right with you. Or it makes you feel like maybe you're not doing this whole parenting thing “right". Or if it makes you feel completely unprepared!
The problem with this abundance of advice is that Western culture doesn't always treat parents or babies as individuals with their own unique personalities, appetites or sleep-needs. Prescriptive schedules and “one size fits all" approaches to parenting may work for a small percentage of families, but does that mean it's right for you? And if it's not, what does that mean?
It means that you deserve evidence based, holistic support that is tailored to your family's individual needs, goals and boundaries
Families and their needs come in all shapes and sizes. Some may need support in optimising sleep, while others have feeding concerns. You may be looking for remote support for help with a particular issue, or you may have decided that in-home help would better suit your needs.
I provide holistic, research-backed advice for parents experiencing anxieties or obstacles. I do not promise miracle cures, but work with each family's individual needs and circumstances to create solutions to feeding, sleeping and care issues. This could include remote assistance, night nannying, day nannying or 24/5 in-home support. My temporary bookings can be as flexible as your needs require, from a single day or night up to 3 months 24/5 care.
My Philosophy
Between Aunt Hilda's panic over the lack of a feeding schedule, and the myriad of books promising to get your baby to “sleep through the night" and “learn independence”, it is important to know that not all advice was created equal.
While there are books, apps, and an abundance of literature out there, the expert on your baby whose opinion trumps the lot is yours.
No author has written a book specifically about your baby. They do not know their temperament, individual sleep needs, or appetite. I am not saying that that there are no good parenting resources out there - there are! However, my goal is to empower you as a parent to trust your own instinctive, intuitive expertise by getting to know your baby.
By focusing on your baby, learning to read their cues, holding, feeding, washing, playing with, massaging and getting to know them, you will learn how to respond to their needs intuitively. You will build your own confidence, and be more at ease with this new little person or little people in your life. You will build a stronger, healthier relationship by reading and responding to your baby's cues than you ever could by trying to program them through an app or a book written by a “childcare expert”.
You are the expert on your baby
I work with families to provide holistic, evidence backed, and attachment-preserving solutions to the obstacles parents tackle in the early years. By providing guidance on gentle sleep-coaching and breastfeeding support, parents are empowered to overcome hurdles in a way that is right for them, instead of reluctantly trying "one size fits all" parenting tactics.
The Case For Cuddles
"Don't hold the baby so much, you're going to spoil him!". I want you to know that this joyless idea is in no way evidence-based. Science is on your side. It is fundamentally impossible to spoil a baby.
This is an idea that is years out of date and has served as a real obstacle for parents torn between bonding with their babies and wanting to parent “correctly". There are countless ideas that stem from avoiding spoiling a baby, some of which you have probably already heard, and none of which are backed up by scientific evidence.
Here are some examples:
- "Now that your baby is a certain weight, they should be sleeping through the night"
- "Now that your baby is a certain age, they should be sleeping through the night"
- "Don't pick up your baby when they cry, they're controlling you"
- "You need to teach your baby to self-soothe"
- "You're STILL breastfeeding? That can't be healthy"
- "You need to let your breasts fill up before you feed again"
- "If you let your baby sleep in your bed, you'll never get them out"
Although these commonly-heard challenges are meant to be helpful, they are outdated, misguided, and most importantly not evidence-based. Let this knowledge empower you to smile, politely nod along, and then go with your gut.
Just because a baby reaches a certain weight or age does not automatically make it appropriate to assume they are ready to sleep through the night. Reaching a certain age/weight does not cause an automatic gear-change in unique temperament, sleep-needs or appetite. Sure, if your gut tells you that their temperament will tolerate a gentle nudge in that direction, use your intuition and don't be pushed past any boundaries you are not comfortable crossing.
As for advice on breastfeeding, most of us are more familiar with generations of bottle feeding. Bottle feeding is a completely different ball game to breastfeeding. It is common to hear advice for bottle feeding applied to breastfeeding, which is often flawed and non-compatible. By getting familiar with breastfeeding norms, you will be more confident in dismissing misguided advice.
So why does attachment-focused parenting makes sense from a scientific, biological and anthropological standpoint?
In western culture, we prize independence. From early on you will probably be asked if your baby is sleeping through the night, whether they are a good eater, and if they are on a schedule. Parenting “success" is too often determined by how little your baby seems to require your input. This is a relatively new (and unhealthy) way of thinking.
With our large brains, jobs, houses and lifestyles it is easy to forget that humans are actually animals. More specifically, mammals. That means, among other things, that nature has designed us with specific intentions in mind, that are controlled through instincts, hormones, reflexes etc. For example, we are designed to be distressed by a baby's cry so that we quickly respond - it is a survival mechanism. Newborns have short, mostly shallow sleep cycles so they can be easily roused, which acts as a built-in safety feature.
Dr Nils Bergman, MB CHB, MPH, MD categorised four different kinds of mammals and describes how the composition of each mammals milk influences the kind of care they provide to their young.
Cache mammals: Deer, rabbit. Babies are mature at birth. Milk is very high in fats and proteins. This sustains the hidden babies for long periods, sometimes exceeding 12 hours. This ensures they do not cry out, making themselves vulnerable to predators.
Follow mammals: Giraffe, cow. Babies are mature at birth. Milk is lower in fats and proteins. Babies can follow their mothers, so are able to feed frequently.
Nest mammals: Dog, cat. Babies are less mature at birth, and need the nest for warmth. Milk is higher in proteins and fats, mother returns to feed her young every 2-4 hours.
Carry mammals: Apes, marsupials. These babies are the most immature at birth, and need the warmth of their mother's body, so are carried constantly. Milk is low in fats and proteins. Babies are fed often and around the clock.
Human milk is among the lowest in fats and proteins of all mammalian milks. Also, our babies are among the most immature at birth, so require being carried and held. Not only does this behaviour meet a babies physical needs, it is vital for promoting attachment and boosting parents' confidence in caring for their babies.
Whether breastfeeding or bottle feeding, and regardless of what kind of milk you use, the composition of human milk indicates how nature intended us to nurture our babies.
Keeping baby close helps to keep their heart rate and blood oxygen stable; helps them conserve calories (not wasted on trying to get your attention); is conducive to breastfeeding; reduces crying; and helps you bond with your baby.
In her excellent book "Breastfeeding Made Simple - Seven Natural Laws for Nursing Mothers", Nancy Morhbacher IBCLC, FILCA explains that many of our cultural beliefs run counter to our biological norms. In recent generations western culture has promoted baby care styles that are more appropriate for Nest Mammals. Strollers, feeding schedules, and sleep training can detune you to your baby's unique personality, feeding rhythms and sleeping patterns.
Humans are resilient and adaptable creatures, but it is not healthy to battle our own design.
Morhbacher states that it's no wonder there appears to have been a spike in depression and other stress-related illnesses in new parents in recent generations, saying “It's not nice to fool Mother Nature.”
Well researched, evidence-based information is unfortunately competing with outdated and misguided information. Parenting books, apps, and schedules are available in abundance, but so much advice is conflicting. That is why it is my goal to empower parents to feel confident that they are the experts on their own babies.
About Me
I am an experienced Newborn Care Specialist and have been supporting new families with their babies for over a decade. I work predominately as a Night Nanny because I know first hand how hard sleep deprivation can be. It is my joy to provide parents with meaningful respite. By providing overnight care, parents have the chance to feel rejuvenated and replenished. The labour of love that is caring for a newborn is much more enjoyable when you are not pouring from an empty cup.
I am passionate about providing quality care to my clients, and invest much of my personal time researching and studying infant feeding and holistic sleep strategies that optimise infant sleep without leaving babies to cry. This ensures my clients receive up-to-date, evidence-based information when they are making decisions about their families. It also means that you can trust your baby is being properly cared for while you sleep.
My main areas of professional expertise are Breastfeeding Support and Gentle Sleep Coaching. I have an avid interest in supporting families experiencing issues with Colic and Reflux, and many of my clients are families of twins.
I trained as a Maternity Nurse in London through accredited childcare course provider Babyem in 2014, who provided me with the knowledge and tools to deliver the best possible experience of early parenthood to the families I work with. My training has enabled me to exercise an “Attachment Parenting” approach to my work, where babies are held and responded to. I am currently authoring my first book, which explores why and how babies are designed to be held and responded to from a biological, evolutionary and neurological standpoint.
In 2022 I had an interview with Emma, The founder of internationally renowned Maternity Nurse training company Babyem, to discuss my career since training with them in 2014
To find out more about Babyem visit www.babyem.co.uk
After concluding my (non medical) Post-Natal Maternity Nurse Care qualification, I completed a number of more specialised courses. This ensures that I have the knowledge to give quality care to the families I work for in multiple areas of parenting; from gentle sleep coaching techniques to breastfeeding multiples.
Qualifications & Credentials:
- Post-natal Maternity Nurse Care Level 4 (non medical qualification) -
Babyem
- Breastfeeding skills level 3 - Babyem
- Sleep Training Level 4 - Babyem
- Care of Multiples Level 3 - MNT Training
- Colic, Reflux & Allergies Level 4 - Babyem
- Understanding Tongue-Tie Level 4 - Babyem
- Perinatal Mental Health Level 4 - Babyem
- Breastfeeding for Professionals CPD - with Kathie Kendal IBCLC
- Best Practice Bottle Feeding CPD - with Kathie Kendal IBCLC
- Paediatric First Aid
- Enhanced DBS Check
My experience ranges from working with single formula-fed babies, to supporting mothers of premature multiples in achieving their breastfeeding goals. I have also been able to offer advice on effective gentle sleep coaching to parents who are exhausted but are not comfortable with “cry-it-out” methods.
My support with each family has been diverse and tailored to each circumstance. This can range from supporting parents with a baby in SCBU, to accompanying families on their first holiday away with a newborn.
I work hard to deliver respite and peace of mind, to make the journey into parenthood as enjoyable as possible. If you would like any further information, please do not hesitate to get in touch.
Services
In-Home Support
Families require in-home support for different lengths of time and for different reasons. My temporary bookings can be as flexible as your needs require; from a single night up to 3 months with 24/5 care. Hygiene is always at the front on my mind when working with babies: When I enter your home, I will change my top and thoroughly wash my hands before caring for your baby.
£25 per hour
Sleep is always a hot topic for parents. When you are in the midst and mists of sleep deprivation, it can be tempting to use controversial and sometimes-dangerous sleep training methods that offer "miracle results". Your need for sleep is very real. Night time support can grant you the sleep you crave, safe in the knowledge that your baby is being cared for while you dream.
If breastfeeding, baby can be brought to you during the night for feeds. Afterwards, baby is taken back to the nursery and settled. If bottle feeding, I take care of all night feeds. All equipment is left cleaned and sterilised for the day ahead.
Nightshift bookings last a minimum of 8 hours. Typically a night shift will end at an agreed time (usually 6am or 7am, although this is flexible) however, depending on availability parents may wish to sleep until they wake up naturally.
£25 per hour / £600 per 24 hours
This service is available for 24-hour days, up to 5 days a week. This can be a single day, a week or weekend, or anything up to a period of 3 months.
Having 24-hour consecutive In-Home support can provide real peace of mind. It gives parents unrestricted support day and night. It provides the freedom for parents to take a break, recuperate, and enjoy all the things this special and fleeting time has to offer.
Each booking is tailored to your needs and includes a consecutive 4 hour break at a negotiated time for bookings exceeding one 24hr block.
This can be adjusted for complete sole care for unique situations where parents/other carers are absent. (Proxy Parenting)
Remote Support
Remote support can take place via zoom, phone or email. Each appointment lasts approximately an hour but you will not be charged if we run over. Each appointment has a flat rate of £110.
£110 per hourly session
Tailored to expecting and new parents, the Flying Start package is your chance to have an in-depth conversation around various aspects of newborn care. The topics below have been chosen to equip you with confidence in your new role, but I am of course happy to discuss other areas of baby care you may have questions or concerns about.
Typical areas of discussion:
- Infant Feeding and personal feeding goals
- Understanding safe sleep guidelines
- What normal infant sleep looks like
- Hazardous products to avoid and why
- Bonding and attachment
- Colic and Reflux
- Skin and cord care
£110 per hourly session
Troubleshooting appointments are ideal for parents or carers who are facing challenges or are confused by conflicting advice that doesn't sit right with how they want to care for their babies. This may involve simply voicing your concerns, deep-diving a particular topic, or helping you get in touch with the right care providers if you are experiencing feeding issues that require specialist attention. The most common areas of troubleshooting are feeding and sleep.
Please Note:
I am not a medical professional, and am unable to give medical advice
£110 per hourly session
Whether you are encountering problems (nipple pain, breast-refusal etc), or just want to be prepared for the journey ahead, you deserve support to achieve your own breastfeeding goals.
There are many misconceptions about what breastfeeding entails, as bottle feeding has been so prevalent in recent generations. Breastfeeding and bottle feeding are two very different ball-games, but problems have arisen when we try to apply bottle feeding techniques to breastfeeding.
If you are experiencing breast and/or nipple pain, are anxious about milk supply, have questions, or just want to be prepared, I would love to help.
£110 per hourly session
My holistic approach to sleep takes in a variety of factors unique to your family's dynamic. I then create a plan designed to optimise sleep, without pushing for developmentally inappropriate outcomes.
Night waking is a normal, protective part of infant sleep. However, there are many things that can be done to optimise infant sleep without leaving babies to cry alone. This can be helpful for newborns, older babies and even toddlers. None of my coaching involves letting a baby cry alone for any ammount of time.
Travel Nanny
Travelling with a newborn looks very different to travelling child-free. Jet-lag combined with existing sleep deprivation can add an unexpected layer of intensity to trips. Bringing a travel nanny with you means that you can make the most of your holiday. I tend to join families on holiday predominantly as a night nanny, but will also extend my hours to accommodate activities during the day.
The family is responsible for all travel, food and accommodation costs, plus an hourly rate of £25 per hour when on shift. Minimum 3x 8 hour shifts a week, plus hourly rate for all hours spent travelling with the family.
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Families come in all shapes and sizes. Some may need support in optimising sleep, while others have feeding concerns. You may be looking for remote support for help with a particular issue, or you may have decided that in-home help would better suit your needs.
My goal is to care for you and your family in a way that is bespoke to you. We can talk about any difficulties you may be having and see if I can help.
Feel free to get in touch to see how we can make this special time as enjoyable as possible.
- Phone: 07508877906
- Email: moonrisematernity.info@gmail.com